Friday’s A mothers last word…

You are not a victim You are a mother. By Lystra John

As we get ready to celebrate Mother’s Day, I want to share this with you my sisters.

We are Mothers, Daughters, Sisters, Friends, and Lovers. God said he would not leave us or forsake us. That being said “we are not defined as single mothers. In the dictionary single is defines as only in number, solitary.

You are not alone!!

The mere simple fact that you are mother attests to that. There are many that want to have children and can’t. You are blessed despite what it may look like.

I had an aha moment watching Oprah’s Life class, there was a woman that was having a hard time mourning the death of her husband. She identified herself as a widow. The word widow is associated with death; it is a very dark, sad word. She received advice to stop calling herself a widow, to embrace the title wife. I believe when a loved one dies in the flesh, they are alive in spirit, they are alive in our hearts, in our memories, and their soul lives on, within us and all that we do.

I am not a single mother; you are not a single mother.


No matter what, in death and in life we are Mothers. Let’s embrace who we are and live life to the fullest, not in pity mode.

This time of the year is also hard for many that have lost their Mother, or lost a child.

I say to you remember the good times.

I dedicate this to many that will celebrate Mother’s day without their mother, and to all that have had to bury a child.

“The Lord Bless you
And Keep you:
The Lord make
his face shine upon you,
And be gracious to you:
The Lord lift up
His countenance upon you,
And give you peace”

Numbers 6: 24-26



Personal care thru prayer and meditation

This women’s history month our focus remains on ways to care for self.  This post we will talk about two ways I have personally used to get more focused and tuned in, Prayer and meditation.

Prayer is a way of having a conversation with God. It’s an opportunity to hear and be heard. A chance to take your cares and place them in the hands of someone who cares for you. It is a faith walk exercise that speaks to your belief in God’s ability to take care of you. This is about tapping into a power greater than you and whatever it is you are experiencing in the moment. It is an opportunity to move beyond limited thinking into a place of infinite possibilities. Prayer is an opportunity to release your cares, worries, fear and doubt and place it where you never have to pick it up again. It is also about staying and hearing an answer for how to move forward. This is an act of relationship.

Meditation for me is a place of quiet surrender. It is both a practice and state of mind. There is a focusing and releasing through quiet and stillness. You can enter into it from many places including prayer. Some people enter through music chants, exercise. I like using the practice of yoga to bring me to this place. It allows me to surrender my spirit, soul and body. It is an opportunity for my whole self to become engaged in the process. It is another way to still yourself and to let go of those things which are bigger than you to enter into a place of self care.

These techniques can be used to help us stay on the path to embracing who we are through self care. Whatever technique you use is an individual decision.  The point is to take care of you!!

Opening our mind is the path to receiving what we need so we can be healthier, happier women. Making prayer and meditation part of your experience will help you on your journey of caring for yourself.