Phenomenal Woman

Today a reminder of who you are!!

Phenomenal Woman By Maya Angelou

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman

Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need for my care.
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Carla Armstrong is a speaker, consultant and life coach for women and teens. She develops training programs for college students, single mothers and HR professionals. She may be contacted at


Loving yourself is to live on purpose

I just wrote an ebook, The Art of Loving Yourself. I wrote this ebook because I believe that loving ourselves means knowing who we are and walking in who we are created to be. In love we exemplify the highest level of our being, and become most like our creator.


Here is a sample from the book:
“Everything is in life is based on your ability to learn to love yourself. When you love yourself you to take responsibility for the choices you make and you move closer to realizing our dream.When you treat yourself in a loving way, everything in life will work together to assist you. Love creates a healthy environment in which you can grow and produce the kind of life you want. Loving yourself develops into healthy decision making skills and produces loving relationships that foster growth. When you love yourself you disconnect from everything that do not support you. You become more willing to confront life and make tough choices. Loving yourself begins with believing you deserved to be loved.”


Loving yourself means walking in your uniqueness. It’s the greatest lesson you can give to others. Knowing who you are creates a desire within to love yourselves more. It means showing others through action what love is and can be. When you become who you are created to be it is the geatest lesson in “The Art of Loving Yourself”.


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The Art of Loving Yourself

Carla Armstrong is a speaker, consultant and life coach for women and teens. She develops training programs for college students, single mothers and HR professionals. She may be contacted at

Commit to live your best life now!!

This week we continue the conversation about developing healthy self talk. If you want to accomplish anything in life you must make a commitment to establishing a regular habit of whatever it is you are trying to do.

If you want to change your conversations about yourself you must develop regular habits of positive thinking and self-talk. It is easier to do when you begin to see how your life can be changed for the better.

Commit to staying positive by thinking and doing whatever makes you feel good about yourself. Set daily goals and write them down. Make sure these goals are big and challenging. Once you’ve set your goals in life, take control and make the challenge to get to the end. Commit to connecting with those who will help you to succeed in order to reach your goal.

Here are a few steps you can step to commit:

Be enthusiastic and learn to relax.
Seek to learn new skills for improvement.
Be creative and accept challenges.
Meet new people and talk with them to help you commit to think positive more thoughts.
Ask questions and tell people what you have done or feel will give you the confidence that you need to build up your self-esteem and give the mind positive thinking in self-talking.

You will notice your health will improve as you build up your self-esteem. When you commit to learning a new skill you benefit in more ways than youoriginalitythought.

Making the commitment to living your best life begins the moment you decide to make it your reality.

Carla Armstrong is a speaker, consultant and life coach for women and teens. She develops training programs for college students, single mothers and HR professionals. She may be contacted at

Develop healthy self talk

To achieve success we need to have a positive attitude. We can achieve this by using positive thinking and self-talk. People who succeed need to think positive and tell themselves that they can do it.

Thinking “you can” acheive that big dream you have for the future will change your attitude and make those dreams come true. Tell yourself that you can do it instead of thinking negative.  Allow yourself to think that the dream is big because you are not going to do it alone.

If we think about negative things, our mind will talk us right out of doing something especially if it seems too big. Don’t pay attention to those negative thoughts; feed yourself a different thought by thinking, “I can do this.”

Our attitudes depend on how we are thinking.  If we think negative thoughts, we will be unhappy. When we are happy, thinking positive things, our attitude will be happy and we in turn can be happier around others as well as ourselves.  We have to be happy with our self in order to have a good attitude on life.

When things are not going well for us we can seek to find out why. Think about how you developed this attitude and what can you do to change how you feel. Make a list of all the things that made you angry and what made you angry with yourself. Now prioritize the list with the worst one on top and work your way down until the bottom.

Develop strategies for facing whatever bothers you in life. One way is to develop a positive attitude and it starts with positive thinking and speaking. In our next blog we will share other tips you can use to change your situation and develop healthy self talk.

Carla Armstrong is a speaker, consultant and life coach for women and teens. She develops training programs for college students, single mothers and HR professionals. She may be contacted at

3 steps to moving beyond frustration……

This week we continue the conversation of taking care of self. I recently did a you tube video about how to deal with frustration. I realize many women are frustrated because they have lost touch with their imaginations. They have stopped dreaming about something better for themselves and feel trapped in their right now. Leaving them living a mediocre life filled with frustration and disappointment.

To lose your imagination is to not understand your value. It leads to losing insight to the why of life. You begin to blame others for your inability to move beyond where you are. (I’ve recently become very surprised by the number of mature women who show signs of frustration via acts of jealousy).

When a woman feels she’s missing/missed something in life and/or has lost her voice, she will become frustrated and strike out. She will say and do hurtful things because she is hurting. Frustration shows up to try and make you feel like there is no way out or that all hope is gone. Neither of these may be true. But if you believe its true, it is.

To change your position of thought you must choose to see from another perspective.

Here are a few steps you can take:
1. Activate your imagination to change the way you are seeing. Seek clarity.
2. Write down your thoughts. What comes up in your thinking? Let it out!
3. Review and repeat what you have written to set a new course of living and being

These simple steps can shift you into a new place of thinking and being. It will also show you areas of your life where you need to ask for help. The important thing is to refocus and see that everything in life starts with you.

Frustration is an emotion in need of attention and acknowledgement. The moment you shift to activate a different thought process you can move to a better place of being.

Check out my you tube video on How to deal with frustration:

Welcome to March Madness

Happy March!! It’s hard to believe but it’s here. You are probably wondering why I chose this title. 

Whenever I think of March, this college basketball term comes to mind. (In case you didn’t know I’m a single parent to a son). During this month college teams compete for the national championship of basketball. It’s a crazy time with a lot of games being played back to back.

This month we will blog about the madness that goes on in our personal lives.  The competing priorities we allow to takeover our days. The back to back lifestyle we have created and called living.

I’ve been talking to a lot of women who are having a hard time with being disciplined. As women we can become so busy with doing that we forget about being. I’m guilty too! We get a few moments to ourselves, we feel guilty and start doing. Sound familiar? The madness of doing hinders us from embracing being.

Embracing ways of being can help us transition to a more disciplined way of living. One client after 5 years of working two jobs has finally had a full night’s rest. Can you imagine not resting for five years? It took her body two months to adjust to sleeping through the night. She emailed me so excited because she slept through the night.

These are a few of the things we as women, mothers, sisters, daughters, etc., have put ourselves though trying to BE. Being does not equal doing. Rest is necessary to BE. Let’s break free of the March madness of life by finding a more disciplined way of being.  It’s necessary for our spritual, mental and physical health.

Start by creating an environment that welcomes personal time. Time for reflecting on how to better utilize what we have been given. As we enter into the first day of March, let’s confront madness of our busy lives by embracing a more disciplined way of living.

This month, March Madness is a term we will use to confront our busy lives.  We will approach it by identifying ways to use more focused simple disciplines.

Happy March Madness!!

Inspiration for daily living

Each week I sent out a daily inspirational text to a group of about 80 people. What I’ve learned over the months is we all need a place where we can be inspired to grow.

When I started writing this blog, I had no idea what I would write. At first it was difficult, I didn’t know the “rules” of blogging. The more informed I became about consistency, subject matter and content, I knew that my best blogging was to come.

I wanted my blog to be a larger version of what I did through my daily text. Blogging tips for authentic living was born. My way of inspiring others to be authentic.

Most people want/need a little inspiration to push them along the way. Inspiration comes in many forms. Including following blogs, reading books and quotes, etc.. You can choose to be inspired by any means of your choice.

What steps are you taking to be inspired?

Life has presented us with many challenges. Our ability to cope is developed through how we respond to the challenge. Having inspiration as part of your strategy will take you a long way in making the best of life’s challenges.

Knowing what you need in the moment is key.

Do you remember some the ways we were instructed to deal with adverse situations? Here are a few: think before you act, count to ten, walk away, etc. These are all ways to invite a moment of shift in the situation. To create a response instead of a reaction.

I would like to invite another way of shifting. Inspiration, it is another way to invoke a response in the situation. Counting to ten is nice, but after having counted, you need words that respond with the truth about who you are. Most challenges in life come to define some aspect of who we are. What if your response was to define yourself in the moment? Thinking before you act with a response whether spoken or unspoken can go a long way in developing character and strength under control.

Life has given us many tools to help us define ourselves. The more we practice them, the more they become a part of our daily living.
Making inspiration part of your daily thought process is another way to develop character for authentic living.

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