Develop healthy self talk

To achieve success we need to have a positive attitude. We can achieve this by using positive thinking and self-talk. People who succeed need to think positive and tell themselves that they can do it.

Thinking “you can” acheive that big dream you have for the future will change your attitude and make those dreams come true. Tell yourself that you can do it instead of thinking negative.  Allow yourself to think that the dream is big because you are not going to do it alone.

If we think about negative things, our mind will talk us right out of doing something especially if it seems too big. Don’t pay attention to those negative thoughts; feed yourself a different thought by thinking, “I can do this.”

Our attitudes depend on how we are thinking.  If we think negative thoughts, we will be unhappy. When we are happy, thinking positive things, our attitude will be happy and we in turn can be happier around others as well as ourselves.  We have to be happy with our self in order to have a good attitude on life.

When things are not going well for us we can seek to find out why. Think about how you developed this attitude and what can you do to change how you feel. Make a list of all the things that made you angry and what made you angry with yourself. Now prioritize the list with the worst one on top and work your way down until the bottom.

Develop strategies for facing whatever bothers you in life. One way is to develop a positive attitude and it starts with positive thinking and speaking. In our next blog we will share other tips you can use to change your situation and develop healthy self talk.

Carla Armstrong is a speaker, consultant and life coach for women and teens. She develops training programs for college students, single mothers and HR professionals. She may be contacted at

How to Live Emotionally Mature

The journey of motherhood for a young woman who hasn’t reached emotional maturity can force a young woman to grow up quickly. Anything we do in life before its appointed time, forces us into a state of pre-mature living. The mental and physical body was designed to unveil itself in a specific order of time. When the natural order is interrupted,  it will require a re-adjustment to recover.

When this happens we need intervention. Someone who knows the way must step in and help us navigate our way through. Being a mother without emotion maturity, puts undo stress on every aspect of a young woman’s life. In some worse case scenarios, young mothers have committed suicide and taken the lives of their children. These mothers were uncapable of coping  with the stress that emotional immaturity places on a young mother. They found no one who could help them re-cover.

I’m speaking from my own experiences. I know what its like to have the stress of caring for a child, along with the emotional pressure of trying to figure out my own personal needs.  The under developed mind has no history of the experience of living and no (how-to) coping mechanism for stress. Immaturity will cause a young mother to seek out coping mechanisms that may be destructive for her and in the long run her child.

Here are a few steps young mothers can take to help develop themselves:
Step One: Be willing to be honest with yourself about the fragile state of your emotions. Being honest helps to create a release truth sets you free. There are other women who have gone through some of the same experiences. You are not alone in your emotional state. You don’t have to do this by yourself, it starts with your being able to speak the truth about where you are.

 Step Two: Seek out and find someone you can trust, learn to confide in someone. It’s not enough to talk to another peer who may be experiencing the same thing.  Reaching out is a step toward developing maturity, it is an act of taking responsibility. Responsible actions will create let stress and can open the door for communication with someone who can help you learn how to develop coping skills.

 Honesty through trust and responsibility  through action are two steps that  can help a mother develop skills for her own personal maturity. These steps can create a good foundation for building a solid life course.

Share your thoughts. How have these two steps helped you develop your life?

We will continue this series in our next blog.

Feel free to go to my website for free resources. You can request my teleseminar,  my son and I share part of our journey of life.

Designing my “Life Image” by living in the unexpected!

 Carla Armstrong

Life Image Coach and Consultant

Living in the Unexpected

Happy New Year!!

This year I’m living out loud.

My year started out with me finding myself in an unexpected place. I was in the wrong place at the right time. Sounds crazy right!! I realized a life lesson in a place I least expected. Many times we expect things in life to show up in certain ways. All because we set specific expectations in our lives. But what happens when the unexpected shows up? How do you prepared yourself for it?

Life doesn’t always present lessons to us in the packages we would like, but if we are willing to learn life can show up in any shape or form. What I have learned so far this new year is that if you expect the unexpected a life lesson can be learned no matter what package it shows up in. Creating a place for life’s unexpected moments has now become for me a way of everyday living.

I will no longer risk missing a valuable lesson because of its packaging.

My unexpected lesson brought order in my life in a way I never thought it could come. What I didn’t expect in essence brought me everything I had been expecting.

Living in the unexpected has now created life, Expecting the Unexpected!!

To your success!!