Friday’s – A mother’s last word

What is a mother worth – Anonymous

I humbly appraise my mother’s worth,
It began with pain to give me birth, Which triggered off a love so strong,
Blossoming into a life-long bond.

When needed, she was always there,
Someone I realized would always care.
And the older I got the more I knew,
A mother’s love sincere and true.

Now as I watch my mother age in years,
I’m happy to help and ease her fears.
Privileged now to play my part,
As she did for me from the very start.

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Phenomenal Woman

Today a reminder of who you are!!

Phenomenal Woman By Maya Angelou

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need for my care.
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Carla Armstrong is a speaker, consultant and life coach for women and teens. She develops training programs for college students, single mothers and HR professionals. She may be contacted at http://www.carlaarmstrong.com.

Pushing the OFF button

Are you making your goals a priority?

Making a daily habit of pursuing your goals is a must.  It is too easy to get caught up in the life of other people’s thoughts, and actions. You must be willing to focus on what you want. Controlling what you see and hear are a must. Social media and reality television are always in our face. We choose how we interface.

A healthy mind needs time away from the crowd. You can control your thoughts, when you choose what you see and hear. Guard your thought life.

Sometimes life requires a simple choice of pushing the OFF button.

I can…..requires a shift in thinking

How many times have you set out to do something with the feeling of uncertainty? You are not sure you can accomplish the task because you can’t see how it’s going to happen. Sometimes we talk ourselves out of doing  a thing because we can’t see it. But the moment you shift to “I can” your mind creates “unlimited” possibilities.

Most things in life require we shift our thinking to embrace what is possible. If you never shift your thinking to embrace all the unknown possibilities, very little can happen for you.

“I can” is the gateway to your creative ability stepping into the unknown and bringing forth something out of a nothing. It is the path that leads to discovery. It is possible through the use of a creative mind willing to bring the possible out of impossible. Getting into this place requires you to shift.

It’s time to shift…..I can is on the other side.

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I can…..requires a shift in thinking

How many times have you set out to do something with the feeling of uncertainty? You are not sure you can accomplish the task because you can’t see how it’s going to happen. Sometimes we talk ourselves out of doing  a thing because we can’t see it. But the moment you shift to “I can” your mind creates “unlimited” possibilities.

Most things in life require we shift our thinking to embrace what is possible. If you never shift your thinking to embrace all the unknown possibilities, very little can happen for you.

“I can” is the gateway to your creative ability stepping into the unknown and bringing forth something out of a nothing. It is the path that leads to discovery. It is possible through the use of a creative mind willing to bring the possible out of impossible. Getting into this place requires you to shift.

It’s time to shift…..I can is on the other side.

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It’s Time………

In honor of women’s history month and our time of self care, I share a poem written by my sister, Colette Youngblood. Within each of us is a girl who must find her voice and become the woman she was created to be.

It’s time…….

A WOMAN SITS IN A CORNER, QUIET AND AFRAID TO SPEAK.

SHE GREW UP IN CHURCH HEARING THE WORD SPOKEN WEEK AFTER WEEK.

BECAUSE OF THE PAIN THIS WOMAN EXPERIENCED HER WORDS ARE TRAPPED INSIDE.

SHE BLAMES HERSELF FOR THE ABUSE AND HER SHAME SHE MUST HIDE.

SHE KNEW THAT WHOM THE SON SET FREE IS TRULY FREE INDEED.

BUT KNOWING IT AND BELIEVING IS THE HELP THAT SHE WOULD NEED.

THERE IS A LITTLE GIRL INSIDE THIS WOMAN THAT NO ONE WILL EVER KNOW.

IF THIS WOMAN DOESN’T REALIZE THAT EVERY CHILD MUST GROW.

THE PERCEPTION OF THIS WOMAN WAS THAT SHE WAS SPECIAL, A GIFT HER MOTHERS SURVIVING TWIN CHILD.

THE PERCEPTION OF THIS GIRL WAS THAT SHE WAS NOTHING BUT A TOY HER BODY TO BE DEFILED.

I ASK, WHO A FUTURE HERE, THE WOMAN AFRAID TO LIVE FREELY GUIDED BY A GIRL.

OR A GIRL WHO SEES HERSELF A WORTHLESS TO YOUNG TO REALIZE THAT SHE IS ACTUALLY A GENUINE PEARL.

THE WOMAN HAD DREAMS OF MARRIAGE AND FAMILY THAT SHE WOULD HAVE SUPPORTED

BUT THE LITTLE GIRLS PAIN HAS SHOWN HER LOVE THAT WAS DISTORTED.

THE WOMAN HAS A JOB, MATERIAL THINGS AND POSTION,

BUT BECAUSE OF IMMATURITY HAS NO CLEAR VISION.

THE GIRL WOULD WAIT YEARS FOR SOMEONE TO TELL HER SHE COULD MAKE IT.

BUT THE WOMAN GREW TIRED AND AROUND PEOPLE SHE WOULD FAKE IT.

NOW THE TIME HAS COME FOR THESE TWO TO MEET,
THEY DON’T HAVE TO BATTLE, IT’S THE MIND THEY MUST DEFEAT

SO STAND UP WOMAN , GROW UP CHILD WHATEVER HAS BEEN STOLEN IS BACK FOR USE.

SPIRITUALLY RESTORING ALL LOST TRUTHS.

NO LONGER CAN THIS WOMAN STAR IN A PLAY WHERE VICTIMS ARE THE ENTIRE CAST.

NO LONGER CAN THIS GIRL CONTROL BY LIVING IN THE PAST.

I AM HERE LIVING IN FULLNESS EVERYDAY TO OBTAIN HIS GLORY.

SO I SAY TO ABUSE, NEGLECT, DISAPPOINT, CONFUSION HATRED INFERIORITY AND LONILINESS, YOU NO LONGER WRITE MY STORY.

Solitude a place for self care

March is women’s history month. I launched this months blog talking about March madness ( see last post), I feel like I’m on an exposure spree. Exposing lack of self care.

In the news lately there has been a lot of talk about women and our bodies, etc., and whether what we need should be paid for by others. What I hear is an opportunity for women to define what is important to us. It’s a chance to use our voices to create a healthier place for us to learn and grow. It is also an opportunity to help others learn and grow.

The last few days, I’ve come in contact with women who know they need to take care of themselves but can’t find the time. It’s true that we have a hard time caring for ourselves. What is more true is we feel guilty when doing it. There are so many reasons why we can’t find the time. The biggest one being because we don’t place value on ourselves or our needs. We want to save the world and take care of ourselves later. I know because I was the “queen bee” of this game.

As the oldest child I felt it was my responsibility. Not sure who told me it was mine, but clearly I took on the roll. I was the go to person. If you want something done call me it doesn’t matter what else I’m doing. Sound familiar. Yes I can drop whatever it is I’m doing and take care of your “stuff”. What I didn’t realize was that while I was taking care of everybody’s stuff, no one was taking care of mine.

There is a history of this behaviour in families. What it has done is weakened us as caretakers instead of empowering us. True caretakers understand the importance of taking care of themselves first.  (Think airplane safety in case of emergency put your vest on FIRST). We must put our vest on FIRST. Our actions are the best teachers for those who want to learn self care and how to care for us.

Here is one strategy I’ve incorporated into my life.

Solitude is one of the best tools for self care. It gives you an opportunity to get quiet and care for self. It positions you in a state of being not doing. It’s an opportunity to quiet the mind and to calm the busyness of life. Solitude is a great place to sit and hear what is being said when you listen. When was the last time you found time for solitude? You can start small 5-10 minutes in your day is a great starting point. Use it as quiet time to hear yourself think. Tune into your mind/body, listen to what it wants to tell you.

It’s not the big things that always make a difference. Small daily acts of targeted time of self care can lead to big rewards. Do it consistently over a period of time and you create a habit. Here’s to Solitude and time built into your schedule for “just you”.

Savour the moment and enjoy your quality time alone, you’ve earned it!!